I've needed a lot of this lately — a safe place to fall apart.

Not a place to fix anything.

Not a place to be coached,

corrected,

or cheered up.

Just a place where my fear can be spoken out loud, and.....

Nothing bad would happen because of it.

I'm so grateful I've had a few of those spaces recently. I keep thinking about how rare they sometimes are.

And I want to share some reasons why I feel they have a beautiful, messy place as we are healing.

A safe place to fall apart doesn't give advice.

It doesn't interrupt.

It doesn't rush to make anything or anyone feel better.

It just lets you be exactly as scared, tired, or undone as you actually are — and then holds space for all that.

It’s beautiful and messy at the same time.

There's something in the body that knows the difference.

When I'm in one of those spaces, and I actually let myself pay attention to my body...

One thing I often notice is my breath....

Something in me softens as I pay attention to my breath and....

My body lets out this long, involuntary exhale (or sometimes I take a big, involuntary inhale - depends on the day and what I need)…..

And it’s like parts of me have been either holding my breath - breathing way too fast - or to shallow - for weeks - and finally, my body got permission to take the breath it actually needs.

And in that breath, a quiet thought has been showing up over and over for me lately: 'Maybe my life isn't as bad. In this moment, I can breathe. I can notice my breathe.

That's it.

That's the medicine in that moment.

Not a solution.

Just breath,

and a body that finally believes

— for a second —

that it's allowed to rest,

awaken,

and/or come back to self

in whatever way that may be in that moment or for that day….

➡️ Sometimes….your nervous system doesn't need you to have it figured out.

➡️ It needs a moment where nothing is being asked of you.

➡️ It needs to catch its breath before it can remember there's a new day (or moment) coming.

So, if you're in a season where you need to fall apart a little — I see you.

You don't need to explain it or justify it or wrap it up with a lesson learned.

You just need somewhere safe to let it be true for a second, a minute or longer.

And if no one's offered something like this recently....

I'd like to invite your body to see how it feels when I share:

Your body knows how to breath, one inhale, one exhale...one breath at a time,

To help you get through this.

Sometimes it just needs a little guidance to help you remember....

Where does this feel true? Where does it not?

How does your mind feel and what does it think when I share that?

How about your heart?

And one more question - Where's your safe place to fall apart these days?

And If this feels helpful in your healing, to share, then I'd love to hear — hit reply and share.

No advice offered.....and the great thing about an email is there is not an interruption.....

I am with you in the exhale, inhale, or conscious full breathe….whatever your body needs right now,

And Remember, ❤️

You Matter. Your Healing Matters. You Are Worth It!

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P.S. What does your falling apart tell you? How is it part of your healing?