What if healing is less about getting rid of parts of you… and more about helping all the part feel safe enough to work together? To integrate the helpful and dissolve what is no longer is. Lately, I’ve been thinking about the word alchemy. You might hear it used to describe a team that just works. Where different personalities, strengths, and perspectives come together and create something even better than anyone could have done alone. And I’ve been noticing that this kind of alchemy doesn’t...
10 days ago • 3 min read
April is Child Abuse Awareness Month. And there are a few things I’ve been thinking about… both personally and in the work I do with women every day. There are things survivors often hear that are meant to be helpful… but don’t actually feel helpful in the body. Things like: “You’re stronger now because of it.” “I bet your abusers were abused too.” “At least now you can help others.” Or even… “I thought you’d be over that by now.” Maybe you’ve heard some version of these. Maybe you’ve even...
16 days ago • 3 min read
Running a day behind....but wanted to still share this with you... I talk a lot about awareness in healing. Understanding your patterns. Noticing your triggers. Seeing where your reactions come from. Things begin to make sense...this work matters and is so helpful. It’s powerful to be able to say, “Oh… this is why I do this.” There’s relief in that kind of insight. But sometimes we stop there. And I want to offer that... Insight alone doesn’t rewire a nervous system. We can think new...
23 days ago • 3 min read
There’s a kind of exhaustion I see so often… And I’ve felt it too. The kind that doesn’t just come from doing too much— But from carrying something that was never yours to begin with. For a long time, I believed something was wrong with me. Why am I reacting like this? Why can’t I just handle this better? Why does this feel so big? And when the answers didn’t come… I filled in the blank with shame, Not only is something wrong with me, But I am “the something wrong’, Me….all of me… Maybe...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
We’ve been exploring The Courage to Say No.... And today, I want to talk about a quieter, often overlooked kind of no… The courage to say no to messages that sound true… but don’t actually feel safe in your body. One of those messages you may have heard is: “To heal, you have to feel your feelings.” I came across a post yesterday from @jani.breathwork.healing, and the way she spoke about this message, felt like it came straight from my own heart. Again, that message is: “To heal, you have to...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
We’ve been exploring the Courage to Say No this month. Often we think saying no is something we do with our voice. But sometimes… the first no comes from the body. The moment you notice… A tightening in the chest. A wave of fatigue. A sudden emotional reaction that seems bigger than the moment. And it feels confusing. When I first started noticing this happening and could begin labeling these body reactions as triggers, I would wonder: Why am I reacting like this?Why can’t I just handle this...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Two weekends ago my body said no in a way I couldn’t ignore. My SI joint locked up. If you’ve ever had SI joint pain, you know it’s not subtle. Every painful step and movement reminds you something is out of balance. And before that moment… I had been going nonstop. Two busy days. Walking. Driving. Being with people. Holding space. Watching kids sporting events. When I finally got home Sunday night, I started doing what many of us do after a full weekend — cleaning up. I was vacuuming the...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
This month we’ve been exploring connection without collapse or flooding — staying connected to others without abandoning ourselves or becoming overwhelmed inside. With Valentine’s / Galentine’s last week, my body brought something to my attention I hadn’t anticipated. However you celebrate — or don’t celebrate — this holiday… Whether it feels sweet, commercial, lonely, joyful, neutral, or complicated… I see you. Your experience matters. And whatever it stirred in you has something to tell...
2 months ago • 3 min read
There is a particular kind of ache that surfaces when stories of abuse are unfolding in real time. When details are shared. When victims are questioned. When predators seem powerful. When accountability feels uncertain. Something in my body tightens. And even though my story is my own, something very young inside me whispers: “If they aren’t believed… will I ever be?” As a sexual abuse survivor, being believed has been one of the most crucial parts of my healing. There is something healing...
2 months ago • 3 min read