There is a particular kind of ache that surfaces when stories of abuse are unfolding in real time. When details are shared. When victims are questioned. When predators seem powerful. When accountability feels uncertain. Something in my body tightens. And even though my story is my own, something very young inside me whispers: “If they aren’t believed… will I ever be?” As a sexual abuse survivor, being believed has been one of the most crucial parts of my healing. There is something healing...
13 days ago • 3 min read
February’s theme is Connection Without Collapse or Flooding. And honestly… this is one I am constantly working on…. Because so many of us - me included - want connection so badly —but the moment we’re with other people, our body starts doing its thing. Tightening.Bracing. Over-riding.Shutting down. Disappearing.Over-functioning. Turning on. If that’s you, I invite you to hear this first: Nothing is wrong with you. Why Connection Can Feel So Hard After Trauma For nervous systems shaped by...
20 days ago • 2 min read
I’ve been talking a lot about wintering this month of January. Not as a metaphor only — but as a real, lived invitation for the nervous system. Because winter doesn’t just happen around us.It happens within us. And rather than adding one more thing to do, winter quietly asks a different kind of question: How am I actually giving myself rest right now? Not the idea of rest.Not what rest should look like.But what rest looks like for you — and how your body is responding. For me, the last few...
27 days ago • 2 min read
It’s almost the end of January. And you might be feeling it —the push or pull to do all the New Year goals others are talking about. Even if, back in early January, you quietly committed to yourself:This year, I don’t want to start this way. If that’s you, I want to invite you back to the softness. Back to what you already know about January —that it’s still winter.That it belongs more to rest, listening, and conserving energy than to new beginnings. Spring will come.That type of Growth will...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Happy Winter friends! Whether you love winter, it feels dreary, or somewhere in between, here is something to consider about winter….. Winter isn’t just a season on the calendar.It can also be a nervous system state. A time when energy naturally turns inward.When the body asks for less output and more listening.When repair, integration, and quiet reorganization happen beneath the surface. Most plants do not bloom in winter.And yet—nothing has gone wrong. For many nervous systems, especially...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Many women I work with don’t struggle because they’re too sensitive. - Even if that's how others label it..... They struggle because they’re actually too strong. Strong at holding it together.Strong at pushing through discomfort.Strong at staying alert, capable, and (mostly or somewhat) on top of things — even when their body is exhausted.Strong at feeling intense emotion and relentless thoughts internally, while still showing up as “fine” on the outside. That kind of strength often comes...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
Today is the last day of December. There’s often a quiet pause here—a moment where we look back at what this year held, and then glance ahead toward January. And January often arrives with some sort of pressure... New goals. New habits. New energy. A sense that we should be doing more… faster… better. But for a nervous system—especially one shaped by trauma—January doesn’t have to be full of hustle. I invite us to some slowness. Because slowness isn’t laziness. Slowness isn’t avoidance....
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
There’s a particular kind of tired that shows up this time of year. Not just sleepy tired — but bone-deep, soul-heavy, I’m holding too much tired. Clients have recently said: “I feel like I do 90% of the work to make Christmas happen.” “I’m just tired.” “I can’t afford to have another really depressed day. There is too much to do” “I pretend it’s not there and it turns into frustration or resentment.” If any of that resonates and you feel it in your body… you’re not alone. During the...
2 months ago • 4 min read
This week we’re focusing on a simple but powerful practice: Creating A Compassionate Breath Ritual Breath is a fabulous nervous system tool because it adapts to what our body needs. It can calm you, awaken you, ground you, or guide you into deeper awareness. And it’s accessible with — no equipment, no timing, no pressure. But sometimes we forget..... Our breath doesn’t need to be controlled. Often it is asking us to meet it with compassion. Here’s some example of what compassion toward our...
3 months ago • 2 min read