We’ve been exploring The Courage to Say No.... And today, I want to talk about a quieter, often overlooked kind of no… The courage to say no to messages that sound true… but don’t actually feel safe in your body. One of those messages you may have heard is: “To heal, you have to feel your feelings.” I came across a post yesterday from @jani.breathwork.healing, and the way she spoke about this message, felt like it came straight from my own heart. Again, that message is: “To heal, you have to...
13 days ago • 3 min read
We’ve been exploring the Courage to Say No this month. Often we think saying no is something we do with our voice. But sometimes… the first no comes from the body. The moment you notice… A tightening in the chest. A wave of fatigue. A sudden emotional reaction that seems bigger than the moment. And it feels confusing. When I first started noticing this happening and could begin labeling these body reactions as triggers, I would wonder: Why am I reacting like this?Why can’t I just handle this...
21 days ago • 2 min read
Two weekends ago my body said no in a way I couldn’t ignore. My SI joint locked up. If you’ve ever had SI joint pain, you know it’s not subtle. Every painful step and movement reminds you something is out of balance. And before that moment… I had been going nonstop. Two busy days. Walking. Driving. Being with people. Holding space. Watching kids sporting events. When I finally got home Sunday night, I started doing what many of us do after a full weekend — cleaning up. I was vacuuming the...
27 days ago • 3 min read
This month we’ve been exploring connection without collapse or flooding — staying connected to others without abandoning ourselves or becoming overwhelmed inside. With Valentine’s / Galentine’s last week, my body brought something to my attention I hadn’t anticipated. However you celebrate — or don’t celebrate — this holiday… Whether it feels sweet, commercial, lonely, joyful, neutral, or complicated… I see you. Your experience matters. And whatever it stirred in you has something to tell...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
There is a particular kind of ache that surfaces when stories of abuse are unfolding in real time. When details are shared. When victims are questioned. When predators seem powerful. When accountability feels uncertain. Something in my body tightens. And even though my story is my own, something very young inside me whispers: “If they aren’t believed… will I ever be?” As a sexual abuse survivor, being believed has been one of the most crucial parts of my healing. There is something healing...
about 2 months ago • 3 min read
February’s theme is Connection Without Collapse or Flooding. And honestly… this is one I am constantly working on…. Because so many of us - me included - want connection so badly —but the moment we’re with other people, our body starts doing its thing. Tightening.Bracing. Over-riding.Shutting down. Disappearing.Over-functioning. Turning on. If that’s you, I invite you to hear this first: Nothing is wrong with you. Why Connection Can Feel So Hard After Trauma For nervous systems shaped by...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
I’ve been talking a lot about wintering this month of January. Not as a metaphor only — but as a real, lived invitation for the nervous system. Because winter doesn’t just happen around us.It happens within us. And rather than adding one more thing to do, winter quietly asks a different kind of question: How am I actually giving myself rest right now? Not the idea of rest.Not what rest should look like.But what rest looks like for you — and how your body is responding. For me, the last few...
2 months ago • 2 min read
It’s almost the end of January. And you might be feeling it —the push or pull to do all the New Year goals others are talking about. Even if, back in early January, you quietly committed to yourself:This year, I don’t want to start this way. If that’s you, I want to invite you back to the softness. Back to what you already know about January —that it’s still winter.That it belongs more to rest, listening, and conserving energy than to new beginnings. Spring will come.That type of Growth will...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Happy Winter friends! Whether you love winter, it feels dreary, or somewhere in between, here is something to consider about winter….. Winter isn’t just a season on the calendar.It can also be a nervous system state. A time when energy naturally turns inward.When the body asks for less output and more listening.When repair, integration, and quiet reorganization happen beneath the surface. Most plants do not bloom in winter.And yet—nothing has gone wrong. For many nervous systems, especially...
3 months ago • 2 min read