Here is a Gentle Way to Check In, Learn, and Nourish Your Body. The days after a holiday can feel… complicated. Sometimes things go beautifully—better than expected. Sometimes the old dynamics show up. Sometimes we show up in ways we didn’t plan. And sometimes it’s a mix of all of it. This is why aftercare matters. Not to judge yourself. Not to analyze every moment. Not to ask, “What’s wrong with me?” or “Why couldn’t I just hold it together?” Instead—aftercare is a compassionate way to help...
13 days ago • 3 min read
You Can Learn to Feel Safe Again. As we step into the holiday season, I want to offer you something: Your body isn’t broken — it’s overwhelmed. Especially if you have trauma. If your body has been living in a constant state of fight, flee, fawn, freeze, or dissociation, then your body has been carrying overwhelm for a very long time. Not because somethings gone wrong… but because your body has learned to stay alert (or shut down) in order to keep you safe. And overwhelmed bodies aren’t bad,...
19 days ago • 3 min read
Yesterday, I could feel myself move out of regulation and then ground back into it—over and over again. It was all about safety. A text would come in, and my body would startle. I was expecting a text yesterday and I quickly realized that just anticipating it—what I imagined it might say—was enough to send my body out of safety. Each time my phone buzzed, my chest tightened. My eyes filled with tears. My system braced itself for impact. The first few times it happened, I was blown away by the...
about 1 month ago • 2 min read
Instead of a spiral though, it felt like I was running around a maze built inside my chest—and all the running just led to a bunch of dead ends. My heart was pounding. My anxiety level was rising higher and higher. A part of me wanted to collapse at one of those dead ends, curl up in a ball, cry, and hide… but the energy in my chest just kept running—desperately trying to find a way out. My body was trying to run, and since I couldn’t run from my past, I was running from people in my life...
about 1 month ago • 3 min read
Before my suppressed & repressed trauma could surface, my brain needed to get out of black and white/all or nothing thinking. Life coaching gave me this first step. Mindset worked helped me learn how to reframe, change narratives and have new ways to think about things. Then, once my body knew I could hold space (even if it was just a small space) for two things that seem to conflict being true at the same time - my trauma surfaced. I quickly learned that trauma was stored in my body &...
about 2 months ago • 1 min read
I love the fall and October feels like an invitation from nature itself. The trees not only remind us, but actually show us how beautiful it can be to let things go. My side yard.... They don’t rush or force their change (even when the elements seem to try to force them)—they simply listen to their inner timing and release what they no longer need. Their colors deepen, their branches lighten, and the forest floor (along with my side yard) becomes covered with everything that once served a...
about 2 months ago • 2 min read
Did you know being able to change your mind and feel what comes up in your body when you do, is actually a tool, you can add to our healing toolbox? Let's try it out..... I invite you to notice what comes up in your body when I say, “Just because you said yes once doesn't mean you still have to….” What happens in your body? Are you overtaken with thoughts of all the reasons you should still say yes? Do you feel resistance in your body? Maybe that’s true for someone else but not you… Is there...
2 months ago • 2 min read
Have you ever noticed how stress seems to pull you back into old ways of coping—reacting in ways you thought you had already outgrown? I’ve been busy lately….I’m sure that’s something we all can say. And when we get overloaded, when there are too many things on our plate or we feel the weight of too many “to-dos,” it’s normal for us to feel stress, for important things to fall through the cracks. I had that experience last week—and the thing I forgot was sending out this weekly newsletter. I...
2 months ago • 2 min read
At the close of my 16-week Basic Foundation program, I always set aside one session for reflection and celebration. It’s one of my favorite parts of the journey—because no two clients arrive at the exact same place, yet there are always beautiful threads of similarity that weave their stories together. One of the most common insights? Some version of these: 👉 “I’ve started to trust my body again.” 👉 “I trust my body in a whole new way.” 👉 “I didn’t know trusting my body would create this.”...
3 months ago • 1 min read