When it comes to trauma healing, many people think the goal is to always feel calm. But here’s the truth: healing doesn’t begin with calm—it begins with safety.

When the body feels safe enough, it finally has permission to soften, release, and move toward healing.

Healing that includes, the grounding, the calm, the intensity, the scary - it includes the range and variety of emotions that being human offers.

Safety doesn’t mean nothing hard will come up.

It means that when something does rise to the surface, there’s enough inner support to meet it with presence instead of panic.

And when the panic is there, safe enough means meeting the panic, allowing it, processing it so it moves through and grounded presence instead of only the panic presence is available.

Maybe safety looks like:​
✨ Feeling your feet on the ground while you breathe.
✨ Knowing you can pause and come back later.
✨ Having a gentle tool that helps you re-center.
✨ Trusting your body’s wisdom instead of fearing it.

✨ Turning towards the hard, knowing you can move toward and away with choice.

This is another way to describe regulation—being able to shift in and out of emotions, sensations and thoughts, with choice.

A regulated nervous system doesn’t mean you never feel anxious, frozen, or overwhelmed.

Rather, you can notice these in your body,

Use tools to return to the state you choose,

Trusting that you’re not stuck in any one emotion, thought loop or sensation forever.

This is where healing occurs. Not in pushing harder. Not in perfect stillness. But in creating enough safety in your body to have choice around taking the next step.

I taught about this in my September monthly masterclass and offered lots of tools to practice regulation as we moved in and out of different states.

I will share one of them here:

It is a Polyvagal Tool called Glimmers.

Glimmers are the opposite of triggers. While triggers send our body into a survival state, glimmers send our body into a connected state.

Seated, standing or laying down, think of a fleeting, everyday moment that caused a rush of happiness, awe, gratitude....a sunset, favorite song, sunshine, water, a smile or laugh....Touch your body where the sensation is.

• Start seated, standing or laying down
• Think of a fleeting, everyday moment that caused a rush of happiness, awe, gratitude
• A sunset, favorite song, sunshine, water, a smile or laugh... what comes up for you?
• Now that you have that moment in your mind, can you also feel sensations arise in your body?
• A quick breath, a sigh, a pause in your step, a swelling in your chest or belly... what comes up for you?
• Then I invite you to place a hand on your heart, belly, chest, face, wherever you feel that sensation...
• And sit in, really feel, the sensation as you integrate it into your system with a sensory touch on your body.
• Let yourself breathe for rounds of 5 breath, inhale, exhale....as you soak in this glimmer.

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Then afterwards, exploring within, how are you feeling now?

Remember, ❤️

You Matter. Your Healing Matters. You Are Worth It!

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👉 If you’re looking for more tools like this—to steady your nervous system, feel safe in your body, and step into more glimmers—my Basic Foundation Program was designed for you. It’s a gentle, unique to you, step-by-step way to offer body based-based practices (that actually work) to your trauma healing journey.

I still have some spots available.

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