Yesterday, I could feel myself move out of regulation and then ground back into it—over and over again.​
​ It was all about safety.

A text would come in, and my body would startle.​
I was expecting a text yesterday and I quickly realized that just anticipating it—what I imagined it might say—was enough to send my body out of safety.

Each time my phone buzzed, my chest tightened. My eyes filled with tears. My system braced itself for impact.​
The first few times it happened, I was blown away by the intensity of my sensations.

So I honored them.​
I reminded myself that they made sense.​
And I fluttered my lips—a gentle vagal release—to let the energy move through.

After a handful of notifications, I’d take a deep grounding breath before checking my phone.
I shared with friends what was happening in my body, giving my nervous system a sense of connection and safety in being seen.

This went on for hours—little waves of activation and grounding.​
Finally, I made a phone call to get more information about why the text hadn’t come yet. A couple of hours later, I learned I wouldn’t be receiving it for a few more weeks.

There was still uncertainty, but also relief in having some clarity.

Through all of it, I kept checking in:

• “What’s happening in my body right now?”
• “Can I honor why this makes sense?”
• “What do I want to do to release some of this energy?”
• “What would safety feel like in this moment?”

It was a roller coaster of known and unknown—but I could meet myself in both.

That’s what healing looks like sometimes.​
It can be a big breakthrough - more often though - it is hundreds of micro-moments of coming back to safety.​
Both helping my system learn (and be reminded) that I can move in and out of regulation, and still be okay.

How about for you, does any of this feel familiar?

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💗 If you notice your own body moving in and out of safety...

Try this gentle 3-step check-in:
1️⃣ Pause and name it. “I’m feeling unsafe right now, and that makes sense.”
2️⃣ Offer a resource. Try a grounding breath, a gentle sigh, or lip flutter.
3️⃣ Anchor back. Look around the room. Feel your feet. Find one thing that feels stable. Phone a friend to help with Anchoring.

You don’t have to stay regulated all the time.​
Healing is learning that you can return to safety again and again.

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If you want support learning how to recognize your body’s signals and find your way back to safety, that’s exactly what I guide women through in my 1:1 Basic Foundation Coaching Program.
​ You’ll learn to understand your nervous system, work with your body (not against it), and build the inner safety that makes healing possible.

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With compassion, curiosity, and a reminder, ❤️

You Matter. Your Healing Matters. You Are Worth It!

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